Gaijin Finder, Again

I hate to rescind a reccomendation, but I have ended my love affair with gaijinfinder.com. I have met several people off of the site, but none of them have really turned out to be what they seemed. Well, the first guy did, but he was a bit too pushy. I have one more person I am considering contacting, and since he's foreign I assume his intentions will not be as shady as the people I have already met. Meeting people in Japan seems to happen best the same way it happens at home: getting out there and talking to everyone. I cannot fake my way into friendship.